Effortlessness is a luxury.

A touch not careful may contaminate and severe a cut. An action too quickly may tear a recovering scar. Where there is injury, conscious tenderness is required. The wound needs our effort in cleaning and salving while it laments and heals.

Effortlessness is not available in those areas where we have been hurt. For some raising a hand is enough to trigger a panic attack. For some showing up in high heels requires many nights of anguish overthinking.

Humiliation, oppression, manipulation, negligence... The more severe we have been wounded, the more effort it requires for us to show up with the pain.

Disability rights activist Alice Wong wrote,

the notion of “quality of life” as a measurable standard is based on assumptions that a “good” healthy life is one without disability, pain, and suffering. I live with all three intimately and I feel more vital than ever

If we only worship the unmarked beauty, the youthful and effortless, then we are ostracizing those whose daily life require tremendous effort; we are oppressing ourselves because aren't we all hurt and struggling somewhere.