1st Rule of Failure.

Failure is about the selection of focus.

For example, if our focus lies in getting an A+ then missing a few questions would feel like a failure. But if our focus instead is on learning the materials then whatever we get for the test, we can never fail.

The trick usually is to focus on our actions and state of being, not the effects that they create. Lead our focus on what we actually have control over then work on developing ourself. Our life will immediately become a celebration of successes with each step we take.

Focus on creating, not the creation.

Focus on speaking truth, not influencing.

Focus on loving well, not the shape that love will take as the result.